34 Years and Counting
Tomorrow is our 34th wedding anniversary. Where has the time gone?
The last few anniversaries, I have put my thoughts into written form. I guess you could say it has become something I look forward to doing.
The first time I shared something, my thoughts were focused on our wedding and some of the heartache that surrounded it. Pain can certainly stay fresh on your mind and consume your thoughts for a long time. I found it to be therapeutic to write it out and let it go. If you didn’t read about it, it was a wonderful day – other than the fact my mom refused to be there. That’s all I’ll say about that here.
The second post was similar. The third talked about how everything had changed in my life – with the exception of my faith.
Although I cant help but think back to when my dad walked me down the aisle, this one is about those things I wish someone would’ve told us before we got married. I’m truly scratching the surface here, but I think you’ll get the idea.
- You will see/meet other couples who appear to have that perfect marriage that you always wanted. It will cause you to question if you made the right choice because YOUR marriage doesn’t look like theirs. Guess what? Your marriage will NEVER be like theirs because you are different people! Don’t compare! Embrace your differences. Love who you are and be thankful for what you have.
- Make your spouse feel like they’re a million bucks. Let your significant other know that he/she is worth something – no, worth everything. If you’re married now, ask yourself what you did or said this week that made your spouse feel like they are worth something. It WILL make a difference.
- Believe it or not, one day your body will change. Your spouse’s body will change. You will get wrinkles. You might gain weight, get too skinny or become flabby. You might get a double chin. You might even have hair grow on your chin. Love IS skin deep, people. If you’re focusing on the flesh, that’s not love. Love is being willing to forgive, accept your spouse as he/she is, and it’s all about respect. It involves listening. Put that phone down, turn off the tv and look each other in the eye.
- Never forget how God has forgiven you, over and over again. There’s your example. Need I say more?
- Life can throw some mighty curveballs that will probably cause the biggest tests in your marriage. I’m talking about things like getting pregnant when you aren’t ready, discovering lies, finding out one of you has a serious illness, losing a child, losing a job, moving, or struggling financially. None of us knows what the future holds, but God has the power and wisdom to bring you through it. Trust Him.
- God is real. HE is the one you should depend on. He will provide the strength that you need to overcome all the obstacles in life. He is everything you need in order to experience the best marriage, ever, because He is love.
“ The kind of love our souls crave will never be found in the things of this world. Lasting, satisfying love will only be found when we stop chasing others or possessions, and thirst for the things of God.” Lysa TerKeurst
“My life may not be written as I had dreamed, but that does not mean it is not good. Hard is not the absence of God‘s goodness and those that would tell you it is haven’t looked deeply upon Jesus.” – Kara Tippetts
”You will seek me and find me, when you seek me with all your heart.” Jeremiah 29:13
That’s it for now. If I’m still here next year, I’ll be writing 35 Years and Counting. ❤️ Unbelievable.