Do you see the good in life?
I know most of you don’t know me, and If I had to describe myself, I guess the positive side is that I normally try to find the good in life situations and in people. I really don’t think it’s that difficult, although there’s been a few situations when I struggled to see the purpose, the lesson, or the good.
I believe my positive outlook on life in general was a coping skill I developed at a young age after experiencing challenging circumstances. I’m more and more thankful every day that my past experiences growing up didn’t mold me into someone that no one would want to be around. Ok, maybe there ARE a few people who choose to keep their distance, but you get the picture!
I remember back in the day when my parents were constantly fighting and I couldn’t understand how they could say some of the things they did to each other. If I didn’t know better, I would’ve guessed that my mom hated my dad. It would go on and on until my mom would slam her bedroom door, lock it, and crank up some of her favorite music. School nights were the worst. Did I mention she played it all. night. long? Needless to say, my dad slept on the couch. He was pretty quiet most of the time and hardly ever expressed his feelings. I suppose that’s where I got THAT trait and why I’ve enjoyed blogging. I find it so much easier to put feelings into words in written form.
Sometimes I thought my mom overreacted in certain situations and I would find myself trying to get her to see that it wasn’t as bad as it seemed. For example, our washing machine was located in our kitchen and it would often overflow. There would be suds and water all over the kitchen floor. I remember saying something like, “At least we will have a really clean floor!” She never argued with my statement, however, I’m pretty sure I only made things worse. The problem was (which I didn’t know then) she was mostly frustrated with my dad because he wasn’t fixing the problem!
Now that I’m an adult, I get it. Life is hard. There’s so many expectations that we don’t even talk about with our spouse or our friends, yet we get mad at them for falling short. People hurt us. They let us down. Bad things happen. Sometimes you don’t feel loved. Other times you aren’t capable of loving others. There are tragic events that are hard to overcome – like losing a job, a friend, family member, or a spouse. All of those are devastating, however, the most devastating loss is when you lose your faith in God.
That’s what has given me hope and the will to overcome the most difficult and challenging times. I pray you’ll allow Him to do the same for you.
“And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28