Lessons from a child
Life has certainly been a whirlwind these last couple of weeks. Our youngest son married his best friend last Friday. I absolutely loved everything about the ceremony – and most of all, I love the people who were in it. My husband officiated it, my other two sons were groomsmen, and my granddaughter was the flower girl.
A few hours before the ceremony, my granddaughter asked if we could walk out to where the wedding was going to take place. It dawned on me that she hadn’t practiced, so I thought it would be a great idea for her to do a walk-thru. As she started to walk down the aisle, I noticed she wasn’t pretending to toss the petals. When I mentioned it to her, she told me she was going to wait until she got to the front and toss them all up in the air! Although that would’ve been a brilliant way to introduce the bride and fun to watch, I told her that the people in the back would be disappointed that they didn’t have any petals. I explained that they were like a gift to everyone. (Wouldn’t you know, during the ceremony she made sure each pew/bench received some at the end of it. It was priceless.)
Before we headed back to where the wedding party was gathering before the guests arrived, I pointed to where her mommy was going to sit so that she could sit with her after she finished walking down the aisle. About the time I finished my sentence, she walked up to the round table where the unity candle was going to be placed and said in her sweet little voice that this is where she wanted to be when she was done. I asked her why she wanted to stand there, and she said in the most convincing and sincere voice, “because I am the princess.”
I couldn’t argue with her statement. How do you tell a 5 year old they aren’t a princess? Instead, I said, “Yes, you are a princess, and some day when you are a bride – you can stand at the round table. Once again, when she finished passing out the petals during the actual ceremony, she did exactly what she was asked to do. She sat by her mommy and aunt.
I think my granddaughter taught me a valuable lesson last Friday. We are all important for different reasons in the roles we play in our small world, however, sometimes we have to be willing to let someone else shine and have the spotlight.