Sunsets in Indiana

Sunsets, lightning bugs, and country living. Just a few of my favorite things…

Control

I’ve been thinking about all the hot topics in our country. Know what I think? I think it’s all about control. No one wants to lose it. No one wants someone else telling them how to live their life and that they can’t do this, buy this, or live this way. Naturally, morals and faith come into the picture when we take a stand, but what screams out is control.

Just read the following story and see what your conclusion is…

My dad died in 2004. It was difficult for many reasons. My adult, mentally challenged brother still lived with him prior to this and we needed to figure out where he was going to live. None of that was discussed, ever. My dad had dementia; therefore, it was impossible to find out what he wanted for my brother.

Thankfully, after doing a lot of research and making a lot of calls, we were able to get my brother in a program that provided services for adults with special needs. It was very beneficial for his well-being. Having a social worker take care of his bills was the best thing for him. She gave him an allowance each week so that he wouldn’t spend all of his money at one time. THIS way, I knew all his bills would be paid — and paid on time. THIS way, I could be his sister and not someone who became his caretaker. Because of his strong personality, this was for the best for both of us.

Well, he didn’t like the fact that someone else had control of his money — even though it was the best thing for him. He didn’t like being told “no” when he asked for more, so he signed himself out of the program.

Needless to say, that was the worst decision he could’ve possibly made. In his eyes, however, life was good again because he had the freedom to make his own decisions about what happened with his money. He could take off for Florida if he chose to do so. He could go out to eat every day if he wanted. The bad thing was, he quickly ran out of money. His bills piled up and his electricity was almost shut off several times. The car he purchased on his own was a lemon and he had to have it towed. It couldn’t be repaired so he returned it to the small business dealership where he purchased it. Oh, and he put a post-it note on the windshield with this message: “I don’t want this car anymore. It’s a lemon.” He has told so many lies over the years — I’m not even sure what the truth is anymore.

{Side note: If you’re wondering why I, his sister, didn’t become his payee and take care of his bills, I did. I tried. However, he called the sheriff’s department in the county I lived in to report that I was “keeping his money from him.” This, of course, wasn’t true. He was willing to do whatever it took to get what he wanted}

My brother wanted complete control over his life. Well, he has that now– but it has only created one problem after another. Because of his situations, I have received call after call — wanting me to fix it – NOW! I could write a book on that!

You might be thinking…but this case is unique because he’s mentally challenged. Is it? Isn’t it a prime example of how many others are fighting for their right to having control over their life?

Sometimes other people do know what’s best for you — even when what’s best isn’t convenient for you or exactly the way you want it.

Just my thoughts…

Fill My Cup, Lord

When you hear the word ministry, what’s the first thing that comes to your mind? If you’re a minister, on staff at a church or someone who is committed to serving, I hope you think of love.

Working with people is hard. There’s so many different expectations; most importantly — there are many needs.

Friends, there are people dying who have never experienced the love of Christ because no one cared enough to take the time to show them. (Hopefully that someone didn’t run out of time because they had to rush off to a meeting!)

If you are in the ministry, I pray you remember who you are serving. This will help you to know when it’s OK to say ‘no’. On the flip-side, keeping this in mind will also help you know when you should drop your to-do list and take the time to show the love of Christ.

The truth is, serving others shouldn’t rob the joy of serving our Creator, and our busy life shouldn’t get in the way of leading someone to Christ.

If you’re getting t i r e d or maybe wondering if what you’re doing even makes a difference — go to Jesus now and let Him fill your cup with His power, wisdom, and strength.

Then the eleven disciples went to Galilee, to the mountain where Jesus had told them to go.d 17 When they saw him, they worshiped him; but some doubted. 18 Then Jesus came to them and said, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me.e 19 Therefore go and make disciples of all nations,f baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit,g 20 and teachingh them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with youi always, to the very end of the age.”j
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Is it worth your time?

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If you’ve ever been involved in vacation bible school in some way, then you know it’s not an easy week for anyone. If you’ve ever wondered if it’s worth it, please read about my experience. I had something happen last night that brought light to the single most important reason why we include the little ones.

I’m teaching the toddlers. We’re talking ages 2 – 4. This age is very inquisitive. Whether you know it or not, they are absorbing every single thing that you say. The challenges come when they don’t want to sit still, don’t like being separated from their parents, and sometimes don’t want to do what we are doing!

But…

Last night, one little guy made it clear why we need to have it and why we need to include this age.

Last night was our 3rd night and we had 3-4 meltdowns as soon as they sat down during the opening. One child hit his head. One wanted to stand by the stage rather than sit with our class. One child noticed her dad was trying to escape. One hit her funny bone, which wasn’t funny at all. Last, but not least – a child started crying because the other one was crying. You get the picture.

When the opening was coming to a close, the leader asked everyone to pray with her before we went back to class, and her prayer almost made me laugh out loud. “Lord, puleeeeeeeeeeez be with the leaders tonight and let the children and leaders feel your strength and love.” Or something like that. There was no doubt that her prayer was for my class.

Next, class time. As soon as we closed the door and all the kids were sitting on a carpet square, their behavior changed. it was like I was looking at a different group of kids! They were FABULOUS! I looked at the other teacher with a look of “what just happened?”

This week we’ve talked about the scripture that says we are all sinners. We have talked about what sin is. Last night we focused on how God made us unique and that we should love others even though they don’t have the same color of skin. I ended the lesson by emphasizing that God loves everyone — pointing to each student in the room.

This is when my heart was pierced. One 3 year-old looked down and said, “He doesn’t love ME.” MY HEART. I immediately told him that of course God loves him. This little guy tends to get into trouble. A lot. I don’t know if he assumed God couldn’t possibly love him because of his behavior, but he needed to hear that truth. Don’t we all need that reminder?

VBS. It’s worth it.

It Just Takes One

Integrity. What does that mean to you?

On the internet it says this: “Integrity means following your moral or ethical convictions and doing the right thing in all circumstances, even if no one is watching you. Having integrity means you are true to yourself and would do nothing that demeans or dishonors you.”

I believe most people know that definition; however, because we all seem to have a different opinion when it comes to what’s right in this world, most people choose to do what feels right. Let me tell you now, your feelings will fail you. I seriously don’t understand how people live life without any guidelines. You must have them so that you know what your morals even are!

Mine come from God’s Word. Although I’ve fallen short, His Word has never failed me.

Listen, I’ve made a lot of mistakes over the years. I’m not pretending to be a holier-than-thou believer in Christ. I’m simply trying my best to live what I believe. Because of that, it’s been on my heart to share with others.

Here’s the thing, I’ve watched people die because they chose to try something new. I’ve watched families divide over one thing. One. Churches have divided over one issue. It only takes one. People have been fired — not because they weren’t qualified, but because of bad life choices.

The good news is, there’s One Savior who can heal what’s been destroyed. He heals hearts that have been broken. He restores relationships – if people are willing. He will save your soul and help you change if you’re willing to surrender it all. One Savior. Jesus. Let Him restore your heart today.

“Better the poor whose walk is blameless than the rich whose ways are perverse.” Proverbs 28:6

“The righteous who walks in his integrity–blessed are his children after him!” Proverbs 20:7

“The integrity of the upright guides them, but the unfaithful are destroyed by their duplicity.” Proverbs 11:3

“The Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in people who are trustworthy.” Proverbs 12:22

“To do what is right and just is more acceptable to the LORD than sacrifice.” Proverbs 21:3

A Father’s Love

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My dad…

Father’s Day is a special day for many, yet it’s a difficult day for some. If you’ve experienced heartache in some way such as the loss of your father, you may be finding this day difficult to celebrate or observe.

My father passed away in 2002, and every year since then I’ve realized how much I took him for granted. I was blessed to have the dad I did. He wasn’t perfect, but he was the perfect dad for me.

One thing that I treasure about him was his presence. Our family went through some very difficult times, but he remained faithful and committed.

When I was in the 5th grade, I was going through a difficult time and didn’t want to go to school. There were several mornings when I waited inside for the bus  instead of standing with my friends down the way. I would peek through the living room curtains so that I could watch my dad back out of the driveway and I watched  his car go down the street until it was out of my sight.  Tears would often sting my eyes.

There was something about my dad’s presence that gave me comfort and it was hard for me to watch him leave.

If your heart is hurting today because circumstances prevent you from experiencing   your dad’s presence, I hope this truth will comfort you today.

You have a Heavenly Father who loves you more than you can imagine.  In the book of John it says, “For God so loved the world that he gave his only son that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. “ He loves you that much.

I recently read something written by author Andrea Lucado and I found it fitting to share here. She said, “When  you begin to view God as your Father, you start to see Him as not only the creator of the universe, but the creator of you. He intimately knows you (Psalm 139). He did not create us and walk away. He created us, sent His son to die for us and left the Holy Spirit to guide us.”

Our Heavenly Father WANTS to have a relationship with you. He WANTS to be with you. He wants to encourage you when you need it.  He wants to give you that much needed wisdom, direction, and comfort. Your Heavenly Father will give you everything you need if you’ll just believe in Him — and trust Him.

Let’s remember to embrace our Heavenly Father’s love  today.

Happy Father’s Day.

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35 Years and Counting

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Thirty-five years ago, it was an extremely hot day. How can I possibly remember that when I can’t remember the temps from last week? Because it was my wedding day. Like most people do, I remember every detail of my wedding day.

If the air-conditioning was working in the church, I didn’t feel it. And at the perfect moment when we were standing up in front of approximately 400 people, a drop of sweat dripped off the tip of my nose.

My soon-to-be husband noticed and knew I was mortified. He whispered “you crack me up” as I tried to remain calm. His words were exactly what I needed to make me smile and relax.

So much has happened since that day. So many blessings. The sting I felt because my mom didn’t show up is now gone.

There’s a lot of mistakes that I’ve made over the years and I wish I could erase them or delete them all with a click of a delete button; however, without those difficult times I would’ve missed out on the power of forgiveness.

Those tough times also pulled me near to the One who loves me most, and for that I am thankful. ❤️

Life

Do you have that one go-to place that you know will bring you some type of fulfillment or will  provide that peace that you long for?  Maybe it’s church. Perhaps it’s sitting on your back porch swing with a friend. Wherever that place is, you can’t wait to be there – even if it’s for a few minutes.

One of my favorite times to experience that is when I look up and see a sunset. That place can be anywhere. Although they only last a few minutes,  they sure do provide a peace that I can’t explain. I guess I find them to be a  reminder that there is something greater than this life – even at it’s best. How exciting and comforting is that thought?

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It’s weird, though, how you learn to depend on certain places, things, or people to give you that feeling that life is good. No wonder life can seem like a rollercoaster ride when those things we depend on are gone or simply don’t pan out.

 I think we all chase after something…. for the challenge or for happiness.   What are you chasing after? Are you putting all of your time, thoughts, and energy into something that is for temporary satisfaction, or are you seeking something of eternal value?

“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame,and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Consider him who endured such opposition from sinners, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.” ~ Hebrews 12:13

“What we see will last only a short time, but what we cannot see will last forever.” ~ 2 Cor. 4:18

Don’t forget me

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Have you ever listened to someone explain why they started a ministry or became involved in a particular cause? Often times tragedy triggers people  into action, but what about love? Since there’s so much tragedy in our world — how many times do you hear someone say that Christ’s love touched their heart in such a way that they knew they had to do something to help someone else? Don’t misunderstand me. I’m not saying that it doesn’t happen, but I wonder how often people miss the opportunity or don’t even recognize it.

Years ago, I started writing because I held so much hurt inside from my childhood that it began to spill out in ways I didn’t like; I knew I had to do something. Blogging was a good way for me to deal with it all and to hopefully help others through similar struggles. But honestly, that was for me. It was to help my heart heal.

However, I recently experienced something very unique.  I’m never one to start something or take charge, but recently something grabbed ahold of my heart. There’s no better way to explain it. Christ’s love compelled me to do something for those who are in the nursing home (and to help out their loved ones).  If you’ve ever had a relative live there, then you know some of the struggles they experience —  for example, hating living in a different place, experiencing loneliness, and the fear of being forgotten being at the top.

Years ago, I moved my grandmother into a nursing home near us. I was her only family member left (in the same state), so I was her only visitor. Because I worked and had children involved in sports and school, I couldn’t get there as often as I would’ve liked. The guilt was almost too much. I will never forget when a couple friends from church told me that they wanted to visit my grandma. They didn’t know her, but they did it anyway. I can’t tell you how much that meant to me — and to her.

Over the years, I’ve carried that memory in my mind and wondered what God wanted me to do with it. Now I know.

My husband and I have decided to make it a point to visit people once a month who live in assisted living facilities or nursing homes. We aren’t quite sure how this is all going to unfold at the moment, but we knew we had to start somewhere. Yesterday, we decided to make a day of it. We started out by visiting a nursing home that’s about 20 minutes away. I had overheard someone say at our Bible study that her mother had recently moved in there. I knew when I heard it that it was something God wanted me to hear; He was just waiting to see what I was going to do with it.

You never know how someone is going to react when a stranger walks in their room, but she seemed glad to have company. Her name is Dimple, and the name fits her perfectly. She was very sweet. After talking about her family, it was obvious how much she loved them. She’s one of the lucky ones who often receives visits from them. We discovered that one of her children had the same name as mine. Funny how those little connections can make a difference.

We joined hands and said a prayer. What a blessing.

As we walked down the hall, my husband stopped — then backed up a few steps. Just down the hall from Dimple was a woman who was our neighbor about 35 years ago! We hadn’t seen her in probably 20 years.It was a quick visit because she was getting ready for a nap, but we will be sure to go back.

Last, as I stood outside of our former neighbor’s room, I met eyes with a lady across the hall. We knew her, as well. I couldn’t believe it! What were the chances that she would be in that facility — right across the hall? After we caught up on life, we had prayer and began to walk out. Before I made it out of the room, she yelled out, “Don’t forget me.

Those words will ring in my thoughts for the rest of my life.

The next stop was beautiful, also. Although we weren’t able to talk to her, we had a lovely visit with her family. As I’ve experienced, family members need to know they are not alone in their journey, too. That’s what this ministry is all about.

Our last visit was with a lovely lady who is living in an independent living facility. It was our first time to meet her.  Our conversation began with where we all have lived, how many children she has, her moving experience, and ended with how many years she and her husband were married. We discovered that the best man in her wedding (some 60 years ago) was the senior pastor at a church we were involved in about 30 years ago. We were all a little stunned about that connection. I almost chuckle as I think back to our expressions!

I’m sure future visits won’t always be as good as this day was, but I have to thank God for whispering in my hear, “What are you going to do with what you’ve just heard?” that day when I overheard someone talk about her mom moving into a nearby nursing home. Is He whispering something in your ear today?

“For Christ’s love compels us, because we are convinced  that One died for all, and therefore all died. And He died for all, that those who live should no longer live for themselves but for Him who died for them and was raised again.” 2 Corinthians 5:14-15

Once Upon a Time…

Do you ever look back at your high school days? I don’t often, but earlier today something made me think back to my freshman year. It was my favorite year in school because everything was new. I was anxious the summer before, but I looked forward to going to a new school — mostly, I looked forward to starting over.

I will never forget when a friend told me that an upperclassman liked me. I had noticed him in the hall a few times because of how handsome I thought he was. I knew he was on the football team, but that was about it. I remember asking my friend, “Are you sure he’s interested in ME?”

I wondered why he would even consider taking me out on a date when he didn’t know anything about me. We never spoke before this, so I found it hard to understand. I have to say there’s something special about being chosen, though. I was on cloud nine. Do you remember that feeling? You never forget it!

My freshman year in college, a friend explained to me that someone else was pursuing me. This was very different from my experience in high school, yet it was the same. It was unbelievable because THIS ONE knew everything about me — yet He still wanted a relationship with me. Very humbling, yet the best feeling — ever.

If you’ve ever wondered what it means to have a relationship with Jesus, let me tell you what I know. There’s nothing like it. If you haven’t noticed, He’s pursuing you — maybe through a friend, a trial, or a miracle. There’s no better feeling than knowing God loves you.

“Therefore if you have been raised up with Christ, keep seeking the things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your mind on the things above, not on the things that are on earth. For you have died and your life is hidden with Christ in God. When Christ, who is our life, is revealed, then you also will be revealed with Him in glory.” Colossians 3:1-4