We are here to love others. How are you doing that today?
I recently met a very sweet woman who lives in a nursing home. I really don’t know a lot about her other than the few things she shared with me when I visited with her. I was careful not to ask a lot of questions about her family in case they don’t stay in touch. The last thing I wanted to do was make her feel sad.
She sat in her wheelchair at the table with her arms crossed and her eyes closed. When we asked her if she wanted to make a craft, she declined. When someone brought the Bingo cards over to see if anyone wanted to play, she declined again.
I soon found out why – she was blind.
I pulled up a chair and sat between her and another gentleman. We had the most pleasant conversation. She was reserved at first, but she soon opened up. I could tell she had a very tender heart. I asked where she grew up, and she asked me the same. We talked about her long hair and I told her how beautiful it was, and it was. We talked a little about our siblings and if we were the youngest or the oldest. I found out that she loves spaghetti – especially the sauce.
She heard the Bingo balls rolling around as the caller mixed them up and asked what was making that noise. When I explained the game and why it was fun, it dawned on me that I should ask her if she would be my Bingo partner. She smiled and wanted to play.
The Bingo cards and markers were extra-large – making it easy for the older ones to see and handle. I handed my new friend one of the chips so that she could feel what I was placing on the card. I told her they looked like a piece of pepperoni. I guess that wasn’t a good idea because within minutes she was placing it into her mouth! I tried to stay calm while explaining that it wasn’t something to eat. She insisted there was something inside of it. I told her that I wished there was something good on the inside – like chocolate, but there wasn’t.
I thought she understood, but I caught her hiding it under her clothing – just like a child would do to save for later. I finally convinced her to hand it over so that I could use it on a number that was just called. She smiled and even laughed. Maybe she was picturing my expression when she put it in her mouth – I don’t know.
Our time was up and it was time for me to go. As I guided her wheelchair into the hallway, I heard her say, “It makes me sad that I’m blind.”
She really caught me off guard, but God gave me these words, “But you have something that so many other people don’t have – you have a very kind and loving heart.” She asked me how I knew that, and I told her that it was obvious after spending time with her that morning. She thanked me.
“This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this: that someone lay down his life for his friends.” John 15:12-13
“THE ONLY THING WORSE THAN BEING BLIND IS HAVING SIGHT WITH NO VISION.” ~ HELEN KELLER
Fall. Some people love it, while others dread it. I guess it depends on where you live.
It was always one of my favorite seasons when I lived in Indiana. Humidity was gone. Leaves were stunning. The change in weather (cooler temps) meant you could wear different clothes, and enjoy different activities. Even your menu changed! Although it was a reminder that summer was officially over and winter was next, it also meant that Halloween was around the corner.
Halloween. A day I always looked forward to when I was young. I remember my dad dressing up sometimes as he and my mom walked me from door to door. My parents loved handing out candy and seeing all the costumes. Especially my dad. It was a holiday that didn’t have all the stress that others would sometimes bring to our house.
But everything changed one year.
Several years ago, my mom lost her battle to cancer the day before Halloween. I wasn’t with her, but I’ll never forget it. I wanted to be, but she wouldn’t let me. She shut me out of her life when she knew life was coming to an end. I really thought that was cruel and selfish of her at the time, but now – I guess I understand.
Life is hard, and although I haven’t experienced it yet – I’m certain that living your last days is even harder. I can’t imagine how hard it is to know you’ll never see your loved ones again, at least not here on earth. Knowing that you will be missing out on graduations, weddings, grandchildren, or just being there when someone you love needs you – would break your heart. Maybe it’s too much to bear.
But. What about all the other things that you will get to experience? If you are a believer, you will get to see Jesus. Have you thought about that? You finally get to see your creator, bow before Him, and touch His feet. You’ll get to experience pure love, and be in a place where there’s no sadness, no pain, no bitterness, no worries, no more sleepless nights because of big or bad decisions. And one day, you’ll get to see those people you didn’t want to leave or those who died before you. You’ll be together – forever.
Doesn’t that make it worth believing in Jesus now?
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16
Heaven. The next season – if you believe.
Have you ever been caught off guard and discovered that someone was either hurt, influenced, or inspired by something you did or said? God certainly has a way of revealing lessons in the most subtle way.
I just got back to Florida after spending a few days in Minnesota. I went from 89 degree weather here to the 40’s up north. Let me tell you what – it was like a breath of fresh air!
Loved everything about the cool, crisp air. Thankful I got to experience fall and see the change of color in the leaves. I even got to see Minnesota’s first snowfall when I woke up on Sunday morning. It was like I was sitting inside of a snow globe. Beautiful.
The best part of my visit, however, was spending time with my son and granddaughter.
Let me tell you a little about her.
She is two, energetic, inquisitive, fearless, determined, sweet, loving, and fun. Seeing the world through her eyes – what is important and what is not, and witnessing her excitement over the smallest things was the best. thing. ever.
Like all grandmothers do, I took a lot of pictures. Here’s three of my favorites.
I tried my best to capture special moments, but found that you just can’t take a pic of everything you want to remember.
There were two instances when I so wished I had the moments captured by a picture or video because of how priceless they were. I’m pretty sure I’ll never forget them, though, because…. they were that good. You know, those moments that make you feel so good on the inside.
First moment: I needed to shave my legs. (T.M.I.? Ha.) I pulled up my sweatpants above my knees and propped up my leg onto the bathroom sink. When I shook the shaving cream and gave it the first squirt onto my leg , my granddaughter immediately stopped looking at her coloring book. She stood up and was mesmerized with what was going on. I loved when she said “Whoa!” as I spread the shaving cream to cover the bottom part of my leg. I watched her from the corner of my eye as she looked down at her pants and managed to pull them up above her knees to look like mine. She stood there as if she were waiting in line to get hers done next.
Naturally, I had to put shaving cream on her legs, too. I used a Kleenex as my razor and ‘shaved’ the front of her legs. I don’t think I’ve ever seen her stay so still. She didn’t take her eyes off of her legs until I was done.
Second moment: I had a phone call from a friend. My granddaughter headed for her bedroom when I was on the phone, so I followed her and sat down on a chair. Within minutes she climbed up next to me, holding a play phone up to her ear. What was priceless was her expression and how she would repeat certain words or phrases that she heard me say, like – “Oh my goodness!” or “Uh huh” – then we would both grin.
Here’s the thing…. You never know how your actions or words are going to influence someone else. I wasn’t even trying to get my granddaughter’s attention. I wasn’t planning on teaching her how to shave her legs. I didn’t even think she would be interested! Not that I was bothered, I was just surprised that she was interested in what I was doing – especially when she was holding her favorite coloring/sticker book.
And what about how we speak to others… I mean, what if I had been in a heated discussion with someone on the phone and had said things that I wouldn’t want her to learn or repeat. What if my tone would’ve frightened her or made her sad. Not that I typically use words that shouldn’t be repeated, but what if….
My point is, our actions and words do make a difference. All of them.
What a good reminder that we need to pay close attention to our words, our actions, and our reactions. You never know who might be watching you or listening to the words you speak.
And if you think no one cares how you live your life, or that no one listens to you, think again…
“Lord, you have examined me and know all about me. You know when I sit down and when I get up. You know my thoughts before I think them. You know where I go and where I lie down. You know everything I do. Lord, even before I say a word, you already know it. You are all around me – in front and in back – and have put your hand on me. Your knowledge is amazing to me; it is more than I can understand.” Psalm 139:1-6
“May these words of my mouth and this meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer.” Psalm 19:14
There’s nothing better than that moment when you experience the unexpected – the kind that makes you laugh and forget about everything that’s dragging you down.
We were talking to our son, daughter in law, and two-year-old granddaughter yesterday. Can I just say – I love and appreciate modern technology? We live several states away from them, so we are more than thankful that we get to see them often – even though it’s not in person. Can you relate?
We got to watch our grandchild demonstrate her forward rolls, “read” to us as she turned the pages of one of her favorite books, and last – she grabbed a stool from the bathroom – brought it back into her bedroom and climbed on it. She reached for the light switch, and out went the lights.
Icing on the cake was hearing her giggle when we told her we couldn’t see her.
We were cracking up!
With all of the tension in our nation and some within my own personal life – this was more than refreshing. It was a burst of fresh air!
When the lights were back on, she blew us a kiss.
Sweet, kind, honest, truth, true love and innocence still exists in this world. I hope you can experience it, too.
A pinch of God’s love….
“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.” Philippians 4:8
“if you have faith the size of a mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move; and nothing will be impossible to you.” Matthew 17:20
If you have ever experienced a heart attack, or at least had similar symptoms – then you know how scary it feels. I recently made my first visit to the ER in Florida. When my husband walked in after doing a 5 mile run, I told him I needed to go.
The ER: Naturally, they didn’t know a single thing about me. I kept thinking – if we were in Indiana (where I spent 56 years of my life), I wouldn’t have to waste so much time telling them every single surgery I’ve had, what meds I’m taking and what I’m allergic to, what my parents did or didn’t have, my address, or what kind of insurance I have. They would know.
Don’t get me wrong, everyone here was very nice, professional and caring, but I was missing the comfort of not just being a number. Every time I had to repeat what was mentioned above, I was reminded that I was in a place where no one knows me.
There’s something powerful about being known.
Living in Florida has been a challenge. When people ask me if I like it, I pretty much always say the same thing. The view and weather are beautiful. We have met a lot of great people through our church and Mark’s work – for that I am so thankful.
But. That feeling that I had in the ER summed up what I don’t like about living here. I don’t like being so far away from my sons and family. I don’t like being far away from my friends – friendships that took years to build. Those people know my history. They know my mistakes and struggles. They were there when we had a death in our family or when we celebrated special birthdays. Some of them knew my parents. We experienced life together – not miles apart or on social media. It’s not the same.
The good news in all of this?
- I didn’t have a heart attack. They added a medication and referred me to a cardiologist.
- I have a wonderful husband who is very patient with me and understands.
- I have a loving God who does know me – and is walking beside me all the way.
- I have learned the value of reading scripture.
O Lord, you have searched me and known me!
You know when I sit down and when I rise up;
you discern my thoughts from afar.
You search out my path and my lying down
and are acquainted with all my ways.
Even before a word is on my tongue,
behold, O Lord, you know it altogether.
You hem me in, behind and before,
and lay your hand upon me.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me;
it is high; I cannot attain it.
See that top floor of this building? You can live there for around 60 million.
When we recently drove by this building, my husband informed me that the rumor was that someone purchased the whole top floor with plans of living there – for about 60 million dollars. Maybe more.
For r e a l??
I asked him to repeat it – 2 times. Like, I cannot fathom having that kind of money. I don’t think I would even be interested in a tour because I’m 1000 percent sure I would feel sooooooo out-of-place.
I can’t help but wonder what the people who can afford to live there did to earn their money. Were they born into a wealthy family? Did they go to college and land an opportunity of a lifetime? Did they move up the ladder by working day and night? Who knows. I’m sure there is a mix of backgrounds there. All I know is – I’m not one of them. There’s not a thing I can do to be able to spend my life in a place like that.
Kind of like heaven – except Jesus made a way for me so that I can spend eternity there. And I’m more than thankful that He did.
If you are thinking the same way about heaven as I was about the condo, that you know there’s no way you would have a chance to live there – please hear me out.
God wants you there. He made a way for you to spend eternity with Him. You can’t put a price tag on that. It’s up to you. I don’t have a picture to show you, but there are scriptures that describe it. One of my favorites….
“He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.” Revelation 21:4
Isn’t it worth your time (rather than scrolling through Facebook, Instagram, blogs, or any other time consuming habits that does nothing but fill up time) to learn how you can spend eternity in a place where there’s no more sadness or pain?
You guys, heaven isn’t a place for perfect people. It’s not a club of people who dressed a certain way, attended a certain church or attended church every single Sunday. A relationship with Jesus is so much more than those things. It’s about your heart and love connection with our Savior, and your willingness to admit your mistakes and ask for forgiveness. It’s about a God who knows everything about you, but loves you anyway.
“for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God…” Romans 3:23
“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16
“Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven.” Matt. 7:21
“In my Father’s house are many rooms. If it were not so, would I have told you that I go to prepare a place for you? John 14:2
Do you sit back after experiencing a frustrating day and think, ‘Man, I’m glad that’s over! I need something to drink or eat. Stat!’, or do you analyze it to try to figure out why it happened and how it taught you something?
I’m a little of both.
I had one of those frustrating days. I was driving in front of a store – waiting to turn into the parking lot. I had to stop (as in forever!) because of two women who were walking s-l-o-w-l-y from their car to the store. I tried to be patient, but they were slower than molasses.
To top it off, they stopped right in front of my car (never even taking the time to look my way). They looked like they were changing their minds and were going to go back to their car. Totally oblivious that they were holding up traffic. How on earth do you not see a car that’s right. there?
Later, when I was leaving the parking lot and turning at a busy intersection, a car pulled out right in front of me. I was inches away from an accident. The EmOtIoNs! I was mad, relieved that we didn’t collide, and so very thankful that I wasn’t distracted or I would probably be writing this from a hospital bed – or maybe I wouldn’t be writing it at all.
Later, when I wasn’t feeling as uptight or frustrated, these thoughts came to mind. How scary is it that we can get so focused on something – or focused on self, that we lose sight of what is around us to the point we don’t see what’s right in front of us. Even worse, we don’t care.
Selfishness: being concerned for self at the expense of others.
I mean, If someone can have something as BIG as a car heading in her direction and not see it, then what else is she missing out on in life?
Heart check – what am I?
Maybe we are missing out on answers to prayer, spending time with friends, blessings, answers to our questions, or opportunities to help others who are right there in front of us, but we’re looking the other way.
Do you see yourself in this scenario?
Philippians 2:3-4 “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interest, but also to the interests of others.”
How do you handle people who are rude?
I grocery shopped on a Saturday morning. My first mistake.
The cashier wasn’t finished scanning my groceries when the employee who was bagging my items said, “You can go ahead and put your card in the chip reader.” I asked, “Before she’s finished scanning my items?”
“Yes, it doesn’t matter.”
So, I reluctantly put my card in. I’ve never had anyone suggest that I do that, and I really didn’t see the purpose in doing so. My guess was she was in a hurry. (Or is this the way everyone else does it and I’ve been clueless?)
The store was busy, and it was noisy. As I watched her scan the final items and waited to see the total, the employee who was bagging groceries slapped her hand on the equipment that was holding my card and just looked at it. Not at me – at the card holder. Apparently it was notifying me that I could take my card out, but because of the noise – I didn’t hear it.
At this point, I’m pretty sure I was irritating her as much as she was irritating me.
Publix employees are always good about asking if you want help out to your car. The bagger did ask me, which I’m sure was routine. I was quick to say, “No, I’m good.” I was afraid she would suggest I pop my trunk open from inside the store! Lol.
This wasn’t the worst thing I’ve ever experienced, more like strange.
Have you ever had anything similar happen and you feel like you should say something so that you don’t appear to be….stupid? Or do you suck it up so that you can get out of town, Charlie Brown?
Well, I got out of town – all the way down to Starbucks. Amazing what a Vanilla Chai Latte can do for you.
If you live in America and had access to a tv yesterday, then you at least caught a glimpse of the televised hearing that took place involving Brett Kavanaugh and his accuser, Christine Blasey Ford.
Never. in. my. life. have I cared about what’s happening in our nation as much as I do now. I watched the hearing, from beginning to end. If you did, also, then you know how mentally and emotionally exhausting it was (for them and the viewer) as we listened to Christine Blasey Ford share the details that she remembered. I have read both positive and negative comments about her coming forward – especially her timing Positive: Her bravery inspired many other victims to either seek help or tell their story. Negative: It’s a lie. Most comments have suggested that maybe she did suffer a tragic experience, but they didn’t believe there was evidence that her attacker was Kavanaugh.
Although Kavanaugh’s opening statement brought about some criticism, I don’t blame him for being angry or emotional – especially if he is innocent. I’m not saying that I believe he is innocent. Truly, only he and God knows that answer. The positive: His journal/calendar provided a lot of details about that time period. Negative: He seemed hesitant when asked if he had ever drank too much to the point where he wouldn’t remember.
My biggest concern in all of this is that two people had to tell very personal details about their life on national television when it wasn’t necessary. Both families are going through hell. Someone expressed on tv yesterday that the only way to get to the truth was by having a FBI investigation, then why didn’t they ask for it when they first heard about the allegations against Kavanaugh?
Last, I am so thankful that all of my mistakes that I have made – 30 years ago or even today, aren’t put on national tv or social media for everyone to pick apart, argue about, and make judgement.
For all those times I wished I could become someone famous, today – I’m beyond thankful I’m just little ol’ me.
But even so, the reality is – little ol’ me will someday have to face judgment. And so will you. No one will escape it. That’s why it is so urgent that believers share with others that there is a way to be forgiven. We are all sinners. Regardless of what mistakes you’ve made, you can still spend everlasting life with Jesus. Don’t wait…
“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” 1 John 1:9
“Therefore judge nothing before the appointed time; wait until the Lord comes. He will bring to light what is hidden in darkness and will expose the motives of the heart. At that time each will receive their praise from God.” 1 Corinthians 4:5
“For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each of us may receive what is due us for the things done while in the body, whether good or bad.” 2 Corinithians 5:10
If you’re single or have been married for less than 5 years, here are some good tips for you if you’re wanting a perfect marriage. JUST kidding. Those don’t exist, so if you truly believe you have one or are going to have one – you’re only setting yourself up for failure.
What I can give you, however, are some suggestions that will help strengthen your relationship between you and your spouse. None of this is from a book – all from my experience.
First of all, what I needed from my spouse right after we said our I Do’s has drastically changed over the years, but the constant has been this – knowing I had made a commitment to someone who was going to stay with me – no matter what. Lifetime guarantee – until death do us part. Believe me, I’ve tested that guarantee more times than I want to admit.
Sounds old-fashioned? Who cares. It has been part of the glue that has kept us committed to not giving up on each other for over 34 years.
Tip #1: Don’t use your past as an excuse for your behavior. If you had a horrible upbringing, learn from it and don’t repeat it. My husband grew up in a loving home. His parents have been married now for more than 60 years. Mine was extremely dysfunctional. One parent was an alcoholic. They separated once, but never divorced. Other than when I was young, I never saw my parents act like they even liked each other. They yelled at each other when they needed to ‘work’ something out. Need I say more? So when I got married, I never expressed my feelings or my opinion. I never wanted to disagree. I was so afraid of failing, I did everything I could to be a perfect wife, but I was far from perfect. My behavior was unrealistic. The good thing was that I eventually started to let go and not let fear control me or my marriage. What a blessing.
Tip #2: Don’t compare your spouse to anyone else. Do you want them to compare you to someone?
Tip #3: When you talk about your spouse to others, make sure it’s something positive about him/her. You never know when it will come back to them. I recently had dinner with my husband and his co-workers. One of them told me that my husband talks about me every single day and how obvious it was that he loved me. I cannot begin to tell you what that did for me – and for us. It confirmed that he was my best friend, after all.
Tip #4: Surprise your spouse – not like every day! Even once a month… or sometime in your lifetime – preferably before you’re dead. I recently had my wisdom teeth removed. You can only eat food like jello, soup, and whatever else you can find that you don’t have to chew. My husband has never cooked for me in our 34 years of marriage. He surprised me and made scrambled eggs for me. That was better than a dozen roses.
Tip #5: “He completes me!” No, no, NO! Don’t expect your spouse to make you feel complete. Maybe worth a million bucks, but not complete. Only God can do that.
Tip #6: Last, but not least, love your Lord with all your heart. He is the one that created you. He is the one that brought you together. The more I seek Him, the more I love my husband – vice versa.
Marriage is wonderful, but it is hard sometimes. But what a blessing it is when you can look back and see what you’ve overcome, enjoyed, and accomplished in life – together.